There is no doubt that divorcing is lots of work, emotions, seconding guessing, decisions, and a host of other things. Each divorce is personal, and that makes it hard too. Sometimes I've wondered; "is this the same person I married?" A phone call from our "Ex", or paperwork will come back from their attorney that makes no sense, or seems mean, or vindictive. There were times when having a "truth serum" or "magic potion" would come in handy- at least would help get to the bottom of the issue. Misunderstanding and misinterpreting is everywhere.
The truth is, both people need to get something out of this process that works for them, or it will be a continual battle to get to be "Top Dog". In working with people in this process it helps to have a map, or steps to follow. I have one that has worked for me and others. I developed it after many mistakes, much heartache, tunnels with no cheese, after realizing this process had to be a "win/win" or it was going to continue being a "fight to the finish".
There are lots of places that talk about, win/win, the phrase even gives itself away. This in one of those things where the idea is easy-the mastery is hard. It's hard at first, but once you've sipped from the nectar of this blossom you will not want to go back to fight to the finish. The work to get to win/win is worth it.
To receive a complimentary strategy session to explore win/win mastery, or creating your divorce map- just email me at the email me link on the front page.
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