I'm amazed at how much time we each spend planning our vacation and how little is spent on the things that effect the quality of our lives in other areas like- money management, tax planning, career, education, health, relationships, the environment.... But vacations are so much more fun.
My own situation illustrates how easy it is to pass right by something in pursuit of the "feel good" pay off. I found it no fun to dig through my check book register and pay stubs, credit card statements, invoices and bills to come up with an expense summary for my attorney. UGH! My heart goes out to anyone who has to do this. Not only is it time consuming but it invades your privacy- like the neighbors going through your underwear draw.
O.K. When you get divorced there are information gathering events and strategy sessions whether you like it or not. These are necessary. If the best result is to be achieved then homework must be done-attorneys might call this discovery. Whatever it is called- work is required by you and play would be much more fun. Isn't that why we like vacations?
It may seem a unusual to consider playing possible in this situation-but here's the thing-making a game out of a tough situation may be just the thing to get it done. Whether it's a "Sherlock Holmes" style discovery game, or beat the clock game- you pick. I've invented many games that carried me through challenging situations and have a knack for empowering others to create their own.
If someone is going to be looking in your "underwear drawer" to decide your future, wouldn't you like to have lots to say about it? I would- and did. Get the deed done-make the time- create a game to keep you going. You will thank yourself for it.
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