O.K. so you are certain that you are right about (fill in the blank)?
Maybe you are right, maybe you aren't. The real question is, does it really matter? Does being right make you any happier? Does being right get you what you want? I imagine you think it does.
Well, what does that get you? Can you communicate any better with your EX if you are right? If you have kids, are they applauding your "rightness", do they sleep better at night with that knowledge? Will your bank account look any bigger, or your future any brighter?
One of my mentors, Terry Real, asked this question and shook my roots with it. I never thought about whether being "right" got me anywhere. It is a great question to ask, does being right gain me anything here?
Attorneys may have the right answers for the law of divorce, at least an interpretation for the right answers. Judges may have to make weighty decisions about property and custody, but I wonder if the law and it's practitioners are what really makes the difference to our happiness? Maybe it has more to do with TRUST; trust of ourselves, trust in the professionals we hired to help us. Maybe it has more to do with what you want out of the divorce.
Have you asked yourself is there a win/win in this? Asking the question,"does my being right get me anything" is a great place to hang out when thorny issues arise.
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